“He showed it to me in the air, then held it to his chest and said, ‘B****, I have a gun. I will shoot your a**,’” she recalled. “My 10-year old son was saying ‘Mommy, he’s going to shoot you. I don’t want him to shoot you.’”
Guns are not licenses to do whatever you want because you have a gun.
I’m often asked how I came to work in Desktop Support and Help Desk jobs. What did I study in college? How was I trained for this?
My answer always surprises them. I hold a BS in Communications from college. I studied Creative Advertising and fell into Tech Support when the economy went to hell and no one was advertising anything.
I’m entirely self-taught. I’ve never been formally trained on anything. I tinker. I experiment. I test. I learn.
I fail a lot but eventually I failed less and less.
I cared about what I was learning so I learned it. I couldn’t tell you about most of what I did in college. I didn’t care so I didn’t retain it.
College, to me, is something that doesn’t get my disqualified from a job for not having attended it.
“When someone tells you that there’s a “war on Christmas” in progress, tell them that you have some good news and better news. The good news is that the war on Christmas ended long ago. The better news is that Christmas won.”—The long-ago and forgotten war on Christmas -
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Use this file to prevent your computer from connecting to selected
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provides partial protection to IE from certain web-based exploits and
blocks most advertising you would otherwise be subjected to on the
This is a truly awesome list of hosts you can block to prevent malware, spyware, and a host of nasty things from every appears in your browser. It has instructions on how to use it in the file itself.
Read them carefully. Or get your local geek to help you out. You could Seriously Break Your Internet if done wrong.
“Stop focusing on everything you already know, and focus on what you don’t know. Deliberately and proactively take work where you know there is a shortcoming, and use it as an incentive to improve.”—[The Pastry Box Project | 25 September 2013, baked by Sally Jenkinson](http://j.mp/165PjjE)
Want to know how you can write dollars from their pockets? Take this advice: from here on out, every story about you is really a story about us. Don’t forget that. Even if you’re retelling the most personal story of your life, it’s really a story about your reader. It’s up to you how you do that.
Nobody gives a shit that you used to cut yourself. Nobody gives a shit that your parents divorced. Nobody gives a shit that you have cancer. Nobody cares. Can you make them know what it’s like to be you for awhile? Then, they’ll care. But it’s always on their terms, through their own metaphor. That’s the deal: you write the words. They make it about themselves. If you can’t give that stuff away for them to play with, save it for your diary.
Somewhere in West Tennessee, not far from Graceland, nine women — or “The 9 Nanas,” as they prefer to be called — gather in the darkness of night. At 4am they begin their daily routine — a ritual that no one, not even their husbands, knew about for 30 years. They have one mission and one mission only: to create happiness. And it all begins with baked goods.
We’re getting a little too comfortable with letting other people do the work for us. Instead of doing the hard research ourselves by trudging through waves of information and making a reasoned decision as to what is right for oneself, we are apt to ape and mimic.
Did your job exist 10 years ago? Would your high school guidance counselor have dreamed of what you’re doing now?
When I was in high school, approaching graduation, there were only a few careers put before me. I had to choose what to study in college. I had to find something that would prepare me for the real world. And pay my bills.
Hell is a collection of individuals who are spending the bulk of their time working on a task they don’t like and are not especially good at. Say they were hired because they were excellent cabinet-makers, and then discover they are expected to spend a great deal of their time frying fish. Neither does the task really need to be done – at least, there’s only a very limited number of fish that need to be fried. Yet somehow, they all become so obsessed with resentment at the thought that some of their co-workers might be spending more time making cabinets, and not doing their fair share of the fish-frying responsibilities, that before long there’s endless piles of useless badly cooked fish piling up all over the workshop and it’s all that anyone really does.
This is a fantastic interview. Please take some time to read it. It’s really excellent.
A few of my favorite excerpts.
We are all good at something. Find what it is!
You may be beating yourself up about not having good enough grades in biology to go to medical school while overlooking the fact that you’ve been working in your family’s hardware store over the summer for eight years and have an extraordinary sense of how to deal with people. That’s a skill that a lot of doctors in their 50s would kill for: they’ve never learned to understand and be empathetic towards others. People have all kinds of soft skills that you can’t train someone to have, but they beat themselves up because it’s not the thing they think they’re supposed to be good at.
Are you doing the right thing?
It’s helpful to be mindful about what you’re doing and ask: “Am I doing the equivalent of stacking index cards for 15 hours a day? Or am I doing the equivalent of a Mandarin New York Times crossword puzzle that I have no business even trying?”
How many people out there say, “Gosh, I wish I could own a house”? Everybody I know who owns houses are losing their minds trying to make their mortgage payment or they’re scared to death about having to replace the roof. Anybody who wants more money, a better job, or a bigger house is ultimately just wishing for a new set of anxieties. It can be a great set of anxieties, because that means growth, but there are trade-offs to everything.
And for those of us just starting out in anything…
What advice would you give to a young person starting out?
Well. Whether I’ve met you or not—young person—my observation is that you are probably not as screwed up as you think you are. And even if you are screwed up, it’s time to start acting like you’re not.
“Every time a new gadget comes out my twitter stream screams the same thing for a couple of days: WANT WANT WANT WANT. It’s an insidious pull that I’m not immune to, and it’s almost constant: there’s always something new to desire.”—
I should make sure we’re not confusing empathy with sympathy. Empathy is the ability to understand how a person feels, and why they may feel that way. Sympathy is feeling sorry for someone. While sympathy is appreciated, it is far less powerful and useful than empathy.